About

This guide is a labor of love born from more than over a decade and a half of discovery. I first stumbled across the concept of male chastity in about 2008 and became fascinated by the idea. For two years, I increasingly sought out information in posts, articles, and even fantasies, while struggling with how to introduce this 'thing' I had found to my wife.

When I finally approached my wife two years later, in about 2010, my initial idea of how this would play out wasn't even close to what it has evolved into. Those early years were filled with stops and starts as we struggled against the unrealistic expectations I'd absorbed from fantasy-focused content, and from guides that didn't fit our relationship. I had to unlearn the idea that chastity meant she needed to become someone she wasn't, and she had to discover that being a keyholder didn't require her to fit into some dominatrix fantasy.

The breakthrough came when we stopped trying to replicate what we'd seen in stories and started figuring out what worked for us as equal, loving partners. We discovered that the most profound intimacy came not from power games, but from the deep trust and vulnerability that chastity created between us. What started as nervous curiosity has evolved into one of the most deeply entwined parts of our relationship - the trust, the anticipation, the way she's grown into her role as my keyholder.

I've watched her confidence and engagement grow as she's become comfortable with making decisions about my release, and I've experienced firsthand how enforced chastity can deepen intimacy in ways I never expected. I'll admit that there are mornings when I wake up and the first thing I notice is the cage, reminding me that my pleasure depends entirely on her. That moment of awareness, that gentle reminder of her control, still gives me a thrill after all these years.

I genuinely believe more couples could benefit from incorporating enforced chastity into their relationship. That's why I created this guide: because I've experienced firsthand how incredible this can be when done with love, respect, and open communication. More importantly, I want to help other couples avoid the traps that nearly derailed our early attempts, and discover the sustainable, relationship-enhancing approach that can actually work for couples in a relationship like ours.

This guide is for couples who see each other as equals, who want to explore chastity as a tool for deeper intimacy, better communication, and enhanced trust. If you're curious about trying it for a weekend, or considering making it part of your daily life, you'll find practical, honest advice based on real experience.

This guide is of course not perfect, and will hopefully continue to evolve. Over the course of the summer of 2025 I've been trying to make the site more approachable, user-friendly, and useful, so please excuse the frequent changes as I try things out. I really do appreciate the feedback I've been getting on what resonates, and what doesn't. Please, provide feedback and I will continue to improve it. I hope it helps you and your partner discover the same joy and connection that my wife and I have found through this experience.

Lacking any artistic skill on the part of the author, the images used in this guide are AI generated, and show it. In time perhaps there will be funds available to pay a skilled artist to create something, but in the meantime the author apologizes.